What do you do when you are run down? Even after resting? You feel like you are on the verge of burning out. Believe me, I’ve been there before. I’m not writing this blog because my life is perfect and I have all the answers. I’m on a journey with the rest of you, to take the time to relax and take care of myself as well.
There are seasons of our lives that are just very tiring for us mommas. Newborn stage definitely comes to mind. For me, the school age years are very busy. My daughter is involved in dance and there are normal school activities as well. I work full-time and am now trying to start a business. Some may say that now is not the time to start a business, but if not now, when? I will always feel too busy to take on anything extra. So instead I try to take care of myself. I fit in 5 minutes here and there.
Sometimes it’s okay to put aside your to-do and get a little extra sleep. Last night was a busy night with us not getting home until 8pm. Once me and my daughter went through her bedtime routine and she finally fell asleep I had a decision to make. Get more stuff done or go to sleep? Last night I chose the sleep. It was much-needed. I am still tired today but am able to carry out more today because of the extra rest.
Some days I will take a bath. Not to get clean but to relax. Add some lavender bath salts and light a candle and you have created a spa like experience. Give yourself permission to take 15 minutes for yourself. A nice, warm bath will also help you sleep better. If I need to relax and don’t want to take a bath, a quick shower will help too.
Guilt – A Four Letter Word
If you feel guilty because the house is a disaster, evaluate the mess and figure out what you can do in 10 minutes. Take that 10 minutes to tidy up and then allow yourself to relax. But please don’t let guilt get in the way of taking care of yourself. The house is going to be a disaster for the next 18 years plus. Your kids want a calm and happy mommy. If you are constantly stressed and overwhelmed, they will know.
Your Little Angels
What about the kids? What if they are all over you and won’t allow a moment of rest? Try to read them a book. It will at least let you sit dork for a couple of minutes and will hopefully calm them down a bit. Reading is wonderful no matter what time of day. It is a very nice break between the active parts of the day.
Please mommas, get some rest before you completely burn out. I’ve been there before and it is a horrible feeling. Absolutely nothing would help. I didn’t want to do anything at all. It seemed like I could sleep all weekend and not feel a bit rested. I had to purposefully and mindfully rest. Please don’t sleep away your entire life and expect it all to go away. I made sure I got 8 hours of sleep a night. I started drinking more water and taking a multi-vitamin. You can try adding in a bit of exercise. Or just go walk the dog with the kids. The fresh air and the exercise will make you feel better. Take just five minutes a day for yourself and I promise it’ll do a world of good for you and your kids.