Self-care for the average mom? Sounds like an oxymoron right? Some of the mindsets that I needed to clear when I started incorporating self-care into my life was 1) I deserve to take care of myself and 2) self-care isn’t just a luxury.
I deserve to take care of myself!
We, as moms today, have such a martyr attitude to life anymore. How much can we possibly do and sacrifice before we burn completely out? I don’t think that it’s a new thing. Moms have always sacrificed a lot and not had a lot of time for themselves but it seems different today. We have mommy guilt coming from every direction so adding me time to the mix just makes it worse.
Self-Care Isn’t Just a Luxury
Self care doesn’t have to cost a lot of money and honestly can be free. You can spend money, of course, but it’s not necessary. My favorite self-care activity now is meditating and it’s 100% free! I also love to read and get most of my books from the library. You don’t have to go to a yoga class to enjoy it. Watch some videos on YouTube and get a great experience. Self care is also things like keeping hydrated and getting enough sleep. Google free self-care and you can get so many ideas! Or you can go to my favorite site Pinterest and find even more ideas! Check out my blog post for a round-up of self-care activities that I posted about: 50 Self-Care Ideas for the Busy Mom
More Mindset Changes for Self-Care Success
I Can Fit Self-Care in My Busy Life
Most moms tell me that they don’t have time to fit in self-care. They don’t have five minutes to themselves and have a to do list a mile long. Do you get on Facebook? Or Instagram? Or Snapchat? Then you have time for self-care. You don’t need an hour block of time to do self-care. And honestly, social media can be self-care when it’s done in moderation and if you feel better afterwards. Connecting with friends and family is a wonderful thing.
Meditating is a great activity that can fit into the cracks of time you have. I usually only meditate for about 5 minutes at a time now because that’s all I can focus on. You can also read a couple of pages of a magazine or journal for a few minutes. Drink a glass of water or take a few deep breaths. Stretch your body or allow yourself to daydream for a few minutes. All are quick ways that you can fit self-care in.
Planning your self-care can help immensely! When you have a list and you know how long it takes for some of your favorite self-care activities you will be more likely to pick self-care over something that doesn’t recharge your batteries. We scroll Facebook constantly because it takes no effort at all.
Having a checklist helps organize what you are trying to achieve in your life. I swear by self-care these days and even I have to plan ahead when I really want to make it work. Especially when your life is super busy. That’s exactly when you need to plan ahead.
I invite you to check out my masterclass Go from Mommy Martyr to Self Care Mama. It’s a free 30 minute webinar that will walk you through my planning process for adding self care into my busiest of weeks. I hope you enjoy!